Compassion is knowing that we are all doing the best we can with the tools we have and with what we know in this moment.
It's suffering WITH someone (not FOR someone, and this is also where boundaries come into play). Buddhist teacher Pema Chödrön said:
“Compassion is not a relationship between the healer and the wounded. It’s a relationship between equals.”
I believe one of the highest forms of compassion is to hold space for someone. That means "we are willing to walk alongside another in whatever journey they’re on, without judging them, making them feel inadequate, trying to fix them, or trying to impact the outcome." Just for today, I want to spin this on its head and ask, how can we show compassion and hold space for ourselves?
How can we be accepting of who we are and what we are in this moment without judgement, without feeling inadequate, and without trying to change ourselves. You are perfectly imperfect just as you are in this moment of time.
Sometimes having compassion for ourselves is harder than having compassion for others.
Sometimes we can more readily forgive others than we can forgive ourselves. We beat ourselves up when we can't do all the things 100% of the time- have the perfect body, eat healthy, work full time, take care of family- and we think there's something wrong with is. Shame. That we are something wrong. And we spiral into negative self talk. "I'm so stupid. I'm a failure. I'm not good enough." I'm here, telling you, that you are good enough. You are perfectly imperfect just as you are in this moment of time.
What can you do to love yourself more today?